Logging onto Google Gmail, a banner on the home screen reminds me that today is International Women’s Day. It’s a day to celebrate ALL women who changed and still continue to change the course of world history. Honestly, I didn’t know such a day existed until maybe 2-3 years ago. Interestingly, this has been happening for more than a century.
Yeah, I know. I’m late getting the memo.
I’m not exactly sure why but this day has me doing some reflecting. While I’m grateful for the women who paved the way for me in history, I’m also grateful for the everyday women who paved the way for my personal life.
For the past 6-7 years, I’ve been blessed to be around and befriend wonderful women from all over. Some of the women I’ve known for years. Some of them I just met. There are even some lovely ladies who I’ve never met face to face at all (hope I do soon). Above all, they all have this one thing in common.
They’re known for inspiring, empowering, and helping me to become a BETTER version of myself.
Earlier in my life, I’ve had more than my share of highly toxic friendships and negative people in my life. Majority of these friendships were with women. After some maturing, I thank God that’s not the case now.
Today’s society delights in fueling the fire of relational toxicity, especially between women. Constant drama of The Real (yet super unreal) Housewives of wherever they’re from and the Love and Hip-Hop generation gives a really messed up version of “healthy” female friendships.
What really gets me is that the women on the shows are HIGHLY praised and famously known for tearing other women down instead of fixing a fellow queen’s crown. Now, it’s somehow become the definition of a role model.
Where’s the positivity in that?
Maybe, I’m getting too deep in thinking about this but I couldn’t help ask Myself These questions:
- What are the women in my circle known for?
- Do I know them for their positivity or toxicity?
- What do others know me for?
- Do I uplift, encourage other women while helping them become better versions of themselves?
- What mark or impression am I leaving with the women’s lives around me?
- What kind of history am I making?
I may not be standing up to politicians to fight for women’s rights or inventing something that was “Nobel Peace Prize” worthy for me to be known. However, I do want to be known for being MORE compassionate, positive, encouraging, to other women with abundant love for God daily.
I want to be known for inspiring and guiding them to be a better version of themselves. It could come in the form of an empowering text, DM, phone call, or just a nice chat over a caramel frappuccino asking, “My sister, Let’s chat it up. How are you really doing?” You’d be surprised how that simple act of kindness and sisterly support can change the course of a story, HER story forever.
The world for a woman can already be a toxic place and we don’t need to add more to it. Your actions, my actions to other women are creating history even I as write this. What will other women know you for?
To all my lovely ladies all over the world,
♥ Happy International Women’s Day ♥